Handfasting: why you should tie the knot!

Ever wondered where the phrase “tying the knot” comes from? Turns out, it’s not just a catchy saying—it’s rooted in the ancient ritual of handfasting. And while it’s been around for centuries, it’s making a big comeback as couples look for unique, meaningful ways to say “I do.”

Whether you’re planning a rustic wedding, a vow renewal, or just fancy adding a magical touch to your ceremony, handfasting could be just the thing. So, let’s get into what it is, how it works, and why it might be perfect for your big day.

What is Handfasting?

Handfasting is an old Celtic tradition that dates back to medieval times (and maybe even earlier). Back then, it was a way of symbolising a couple’s commitment to each other—no paperwork, just their hands tied together in a literal “knot” of love. Romantic, eh?

These days, it’s not about legalities; it’s about creating a moment of connection. Handfasting is a symbolic gesture that celebrates your bond and your promises to each other. It’s perfect for couples who want something meaningful, personal, and a bit different from the usual. It’s also ideal to include in vow renewals, naming ceremonies or a milestone celebration to show commitment.

How does handfasting work?

The beauty of handfasting is its simplicity and flexibility—it can be adapted to suit any occasion. Here’s how it usually works:

1. The setup:
   The key participants (you and your partner, family members, or even a group) hold hands or form a circle. This could be palms together, wrists crossed, or whatever feels right for you.

2. The ribbons or Cords:
   Ribbons, cords, or fabric strips are used to wrap hands or wrists. You can choose colours or materials with special meaning—wedding colours, a family tartan, or even something symbolic like gold for loyalty or green for growth.

3. The tying:
   The cords are gently tied into a knot to symbolise unity, love, and connection. It’s a visual and physical representation of coming together.

4. The meaning:
   The celebrant (that’s me!) guides the moment with meaningful words. This might include vows for a couple, promises from parents to a child, or commitments shared among a group.

5. The keepsake:
   The ribbons or cords are yours to keep as a lasting reminder of the promises and connections made during the ceremony.

Why include handfasting in your ceremony?

Here’s why handfasting is a brilliant addition to weddings, vow renewals, naming ceremonies, and more:

• It’s unique:
  Handfasting isn’t something you see every day, and it’s sure to be a standout moment in your ceremony.

• It’s personal:
  Every element, from the cords to the words spoken, can be tailored to reflect your story, values, and relationships.

• It’s symbolic:
  Whether it’s binding a couple’s hands, connecting a family, or uniting a group of friends, handfasting carries powerful meaning.

• It’s flexible:
  Handfasting fits beautifully into any type of ceremony—religious, non-religious, spiritual, or something entirely your own.

• It’s beautiful:
  Let’s not forget how stunning those photos will look, with vibrant ribbons tied in intricate knots symbolising love and unity.

Handfasting for different ceremonies

• Weddings:
  A timeless way to symbolise your bond, whether it’s the main feature or a sweet addition to the vows.

• Vow renewals:
  A chance to tie the knot again—literally! Handfasting is a beautiful way to reaffirm your commitment.

• Naming ceremonies:
  Parents, grandparents, and guardians can “tie the knot” as a symbol of their promises to a child, or the whole family can join in to celebrate unity and love.

• Other celebrations:
  Whether it’s a milestone birthday, an anniversary, or a personal achievement, handfasting can symbolise connection, support, and shared joy.

A bit of history

Handfasting has Celtic roots, but similar rituals appear in cultures worldwide. Norse traditions, Hindu ceremonies, and even some African and Native American rituals all include binding hands or tying knots to represent connection and commitment. It’s a universal symbol that’s just as powerful today as it was centuries ago.

Get in touch!

Would you like to learn more about handfasting or would like to include the element in your ceremony? Contact Terri the Pop-Up Celebrant.