10 fun and friendly tips for writing wedding vows

Writing your own wedding vows is a big deal. It’s your chance to pour your heart out, share your love story, and maybe squeeze in a joke or two to keep things light. If the thought of putting all that love into words feels overwhelming, don’t worry—we’ve got this! Let’s dive into some fun, practical and heartwarming tips to help you write vows that’ll mean a lot to you, your partner and your guests.

1. Start with why this matters

First things first, take a moment to remember why you’re writing your vows. It’s not just because it’s trendy or expected—it’s because this is your chance to tell your partner exactly how much they mean to you. It’s all about celebrating your love, in your words, your way.

2. Get inspired by others (but make it your own)

Reading examples of other vows is a great way to get the creative juices flowing. Jot down anything that resonates with you—then give it your own twist. Your partner wants to hear your voice, not something lifted from a movie script (though we’re not saying a well-placed quote is off the table).

3. Think about your story

The best vows feel personal and unique. Reflect on your journey together: the first time you met, the moments that made you fall in love, and all the little quirks that make your relationship special. It’s these details that will make your vows unforgettable.

4. Be a little bit proud

This is your chance to let your partner (and everyone else) know why they’re amazing. Are they the world’s best cup-of-tea maker? Do they always know how to make you laugh, even when things feel tough? Celebrate them for exactly who they are—it’s what love is all about.

5. Acknowledge real life

A lifelong partnership is about loving someone for better, worse, and all the bits in between. Don’t shy away from mentioning real-life moments—like how they forgive your terrible singing in the car or help you hunt down your keys when you’ve lost them for the third time that day. These are the things that make your love real and relatable.

6. Add a sprinkle of humour

A little laugh can go a long way in calming your nerves and keeping things light. Maybe it’s a joke about their questionable taste in TV shows or how you’ll always agree to disagree about pineapple on pizza. Keep it playful, but make sure it’s kind (your wedding day is not the time for roasting!).

7. Keep it short and sweet

Your vows don’t need to be a novel. A minute or two is plenty of time to say what matters most. Focus on your love, your promises, and the future you’re building together—and save the extended monologue for the speeches later.

8. Make promises that matter

This is the heart of your vows: what you’re promising to do, to be, and to cherish in your wedding. Whether it’s pledging to always have their back, to never skip date night, or to share the last slice of cake, make sure your promises feel genuine and true to your relationship.

9. Practise saying them out loud

Once you’ve got your vows written, read them aloud a few times. It’ll help you get comfortable with the flow, spot any awkward phrasing, and make sure your words sound just as good spoken as they do written. Plus, it’s a great way to practise holding back tears (if that’s even possible!).

10. End on a high

Finish your vows with something memorable and heartfelt. Whether it’s a line that sums up your love story, a look toward your future, or simply “I love you more than anything,” make it count. This is the moment everyone’s been waiting for—let it shine.

Final thoughts: we’re going to smash this

Writing your own vows is an incredible way to make your wedding ceremony truly yours. Don’t stress about being perfect—just be yourself. Speak from the heart, share your love, and trust that your words will be exactly what your partner needs to hear.

Need a hand crafting the perfect vows? I’d love to help—get in touch today!